11 February, 2002 - 12:28 p.m.

One of my best friends since eigth grade left a party on Saturday night in a torrent of tears because she thinks that she's being excluded from group activities simply because she's found herself a guy that she likes spending time with.

.. oh yeah, it might help if I paint you somewhat of a picture, right?

Well, you know that friend who I wrote about previously that I had missed spending time with her because she finally stopped .. uhm, "slummin" it, and found herself a boyfriend?

I don't think any of us had really given much thought to the fact that she felt it too. Infact, I'm more or less certain that nobody had. I know I hadn't, and I think I was the closest to her.

The long and short of it all was that all of these girls night outings that we've been on recently have excluded her for one reason or another. The most common thought process being that she was probably already busy, and there wasn't any point in calling her up and asking her along.

I don't think that's entirely true. There have been many a time when I've called her up .. or what seems more the case .. tried to call her up. She was always out with him, though, and what was more, she never returned your calls. I wasn't the only one she was doing this to, either. The others had tried and failed a few times as well, and I think general consensus was that we just let her live out her honeymoon period.

Unfortunately the shit hit the fan without the honeymoon period being over, or us even having the foresight to have seen it coming. Maybe we were ignorant, and had made calls of play that weren't ours to make. But then, I think it's justified that we believe that she ought to make an effort too.

She can't have it both ways -- nobody can. I think I managed to get that point through to her when she and I sat down and had a long talk about it the following morning.

Now I only hope that I'll have the same success at trying to talk to the one person in our group that she's truly mad at and make her see sense too. Admittedly she became the more bitter and spiteful one after our friend got together with her other half.

Once again I can see both sides to this .. feud? and have somehow been designated as the objective referee between them. Again.

Dammit. It's times like these that I wish I were a guy, and could just let things be. Seriously, you males get mad at each other, throw a physical punch and then wipe your hands clean of the matter. Females .. blah. We throw verbal remarks and hope that the other will just withdraw. Unfortunately, I'm sure we've all been alive long enough to know that that's never the end of it all, and what transpires is nothing short of bitch slapping and hair pulling.

Ugh.